What To Do When Its Your Fault

23/12/2012 13:59

On most of our advice articles we talk about what to do in certain situations and most of them include other people doing things to you but what if your the problem? Who knows maybe your the bully or your blaming others for things you've done. In fact you may not even realize that your the one creating conflict. Not your friends. So today I will be giving tips and informaition on what to do when your the one that's to blame. I am not done yet sorry. PS. The underlined words are the most important so when your done reading the article then read only the underlined words.

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Sorry to break it to you but if you are doing any of these things then you may just be a little selfish (no offense) but its okay because were all selfish at certain times. Most of the time you don't even realise it. 

The people that do this tend to have problems going on at home or at school. There parents could be fighting, maybe they're getting bullied, someone they love could have recently passed away or gotten sick, maybe its something else or thats just the way you are. All of these things can lead to stress or anger and that can cause you to have less patience with your friends and family. You can soon start to think that its there fault and you turn on them.

If thats the way you naturally are then that's not an excuse because if being rude, having attitude or acting mean towards others is your personality then you should already know that you are the problem.

However, although you don't notice you become less close to them and they could think that you don't like them anymore.

No matter how you feel you have to STOP blaming others because one day you will say things that you reget and that won't be forgotten. You can loose friends and trust me its not a fun thing. Also remember that you aren't a bad person and neither are the ones you blame.

Tips

1. Apologize - Just say one word, sorry and it will change everything. Most likley the peopel close to you will forgive and forget. If that's something they can't do then they were never your real friends. Sometimes even a good person will need time to forgive you so if thats the case then give them time. You can also do nice things for them like invite them to your house, give them a small gift ( don't bribe them) and show your apreciation.

 2. Think about how that friend or family member has been to you - Try to remember what you have done with that person through out the years. Remember the good and the bad. If there's more good memeories than bad that means that you have to be friends with them again. However  when its the other way around just let go and stop your friendship.

3. Don't get others involved -  Don't tell your best friend to turn against that person it will only make matters worse. Rumors will be spread, more people will find out and in the end you'll be left with no one on your side or maybe you might hurt someone you love.

4. Stop! - What I mean is that after your apolgy just stop arguing them if they're mad at you then let them because your the one that has made the mistakes not them.

5. Forget About It - Once you've apologized don't keep saying sorry because they could get annoyed. Also don't keep bringing it up forgeting is the best way. However, don't lie about it because then your just making an even worse mistake.

6. Tell them what's wrong - If there's a reason why your acting like this then tell your friends and family members, don't just keep making excuses. By doing so they will understand your problems and have more patience with you.

So that's it for this article I hope I was able to help you fix your mistakes. Remember that its okay because human beings can't be perfect and that's something you must understand. However, being alone in life isn't the solution so go win your friends and family back.